“And the King will answer and say to them, ‘Truly I say to you, to the extent that you did it to one of these brothers of Mine, even the least of them, you did it to Me. ” Matthew 25: 40
Caring for Others in Need
Have you ever heard of ‘Tools for Christian Care’? What does a person dealing with depression for several years, someone who lost their parent, an elderly widow going through health issues, and an older woman who has lost the use of her legs all have in common? These are the type of people that need the tools I am going to talk about. They are for giving aid and encouragement to others. We are commanded as Christians to love one another. Therefore, when we have relationships with those who are hurting, we have the opportunity to give the love and care that people need in situations such as
- …life too much to handle alone right now?
- … health, your attitude, or your relationships suffering?
- …adjusting to a new job, a change in marital status, a serious illness, the death of a loved one, a recent move?
- …. don’t have anyone in your life who really cares?
Everyone goes through difficult times. Having someone to listen, to share God’s love with you, can help you get through the stress, or loneliness you may be experiencing. Just being able to share your burden with others lightens them for you. Sometimes you need to go to a professional counselor or pastor or therapist, and that’s ok. Basically I am referring to assisting people who have normal coping skills intact, their thinking in order and their emotions controlled. For some reason, they just need a little extra support, encouragement, prayer with them and for them, and sharing of their burdens. https://www.stephenministries.org/stephenministry/default.cfm/917
Of course, it is important to take training if you wish to be involved in your church or organization doing this on a regular basis. However, these tools are valuable to know for anyone who is in a relationship with a hurting person. It doesn’t matter if the problem is physical, financial, marital, or related to loss of a loved one, etc. These special tools are available to anyone to use as a Christian lay person, to support someone having a hard time making it through a crisis. I would like to share a couple of them here and a couple in the next post. Even though no professional training needed for these, but it is helpful to have knowledge of the person you are with and familiarity with the tools. To learn more- Christian Caregiving-a Way of Life.
First of all, one tool to use in caring for others is prayer. Prayer is a talking to God. He wants us to approach him and share our concerns with him in prayer. He tells us to “Cast our cares on Him for He cares for us.” (1 Peter 5:7) God listens and He understands and supplies any kind of need. When you pray for others, it benefits your relationship and the other’s at the same time. It results in an intimate personal experience that stems from being honest and open with each other as well as God. You both draw closer to God together. Through prayer, you are taking your burdens to God and bonding with the other person in the process. Remember, only pray when the other person is willing and ready to pray, never trying to force it.
Secondly, a valuable tool to aid others is the Bible. The Bible records how God ministered to people and deals with many different human concerns, experiences, and situations. Since you probably’d like to take one with you, then use a small one so as not to intimidate when you visit. It would be good to mark down some passages or know them by memory. Maybe you may also share a few thoughts or explain them, but it is not always necessary. Furthermore, never manipulate or bombard people with your judgments. It is best to let the Bible speak for itself and bring reassurance, understanding, correction, strength, etc. The Scriptures are definitely an important aid to keeping up one’s spirit in a crisis.
These first two tools involve using your words and words from the Bible. Hopefully, just from having mentioned the first two, they will give you some ideas and encouragement.
Consequently, don’t be guilty of thinking your words don’t matter. “Words change our relationships, our demeanor, our entire system of beliefs, and even our businesses. Being a planet or not being a planet makes a major difference, just as the words “I love you” or “I hate you” have majorly different meanings behind them. Words have a powerful and undeniably overwhelming influence on us – for good and, at times, for bad. Think for a moment how words have changed your life.”
In addition…Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.” Ephes. 4:29 They have influence.
I hope reading about these tools may benefit you and give you a couple ideas about sharing with the person you care for. Thanks for reading and join me next time in sharing about a couple more tools to use in caring relationships.
“By compassion we make others’ misery our own, and so, by relieving them, we relieve ourselves also.” Sir Thomas Browne
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