Three Ways Jesus Cared For His Mother

“Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.”  Proverbs 31:30


I would like to share with you something that struck me this past Easter Season.  One of those things was the way Jesus cared His mother.


Perhaps you also have read or heard of the seven sayings that Jesus uttered while He was dying on the cross.  In case you haven’t heard them before, I will mention them here:                                                                          

  • “Father, forgive them for they know not what they do.” Luke 23:24
  • “Truly I say to you, ‘Today you shall be with me in paradise.'”  Luke 23:43
  • “Woman behold your son. Then He said to the disciple, “Behold your mother!”   John 19:26-27
  • “I thirst.”John 19:28-29
  • “My God, my God, why hast Thou forsaken Me?”  Matt. 27:46
  • “It is finished!”  John 19:30
  • “Father, into Thy hands I commit my spirit.”  Luke 23:46

Any of these sayings would be worth studying about in and of themselves and when they are studied altogether, they give an awesome picture of our Lord and His sufferings while He was on the cross.  The one I would like to focus on briefly however,  was third one that  refers to  how Jesus cared for His mother while He was on the cross.


Before we talk about that , I would like to point out a couple ways He had already showed  care and respect for her.  If you look at the verse:

“When Jesus then saw His mother, and the disciple whom He loved standing nearby, He said to His mother, “Woman, behold, your son!” Jn 19:26

Many may ask,  “Why did He call her ‘Woman’ instead of mother or mom,  or some such title?  If anyone addresses their mom as ‘woman’ today instead of mother or mom, it would sound very disrespectful.  Even in John 2:9  He called her ‘Woman’ when they ran out of wine  at a wedding and Mary  went to Jesus for help.  It seemed slightly disrespectful then, even followed by a mild rebuke reminding her that it really wasn’t the time for Him to show Himself and His powers.   Yes, it would seem so,  but that is today in Western 21st century culture, whereas the Bible needs to be interpreted from its Eastern historical and cultural context of that first century.

My Bible dictionary tells me that when the word ‘woman’  is  used in direct address, it was not a term of disrespect but of honor.  Also when you compare with other Scripture, you will find that Jesus also used the word ‘Woman’ in other situations.  Not only in John 2:4, with His mother at a wedding,  but in  John 4:21 with the Samaritan woman,  Jn. 8:10-12 with the woman caught in adultery, Jn. 20:13,15 with Mary Magdalene, Luke 13:12 when He healed a woman of illness, and Matt.15:28  where He spoke with the Syrophoenician woman.   One source I read say this a ‘quirk of translating from one language to another’.  The term ‘woman’ could also be thought of as”madam”.  It didn’t matter if He was addressing His mother, the Samaritan woman, Mary Magdalene, or the Syrophoenician  woman.  He addressed them all the same and it was always considerate.

At times He addressed the women as daughters  showing His love, compassion  and value of them. (Luke 8:48, 13:16; Matthew 9:22)  This causes me to conclude that Jesus treated women respectfully in how He spoke to them.   Not only that, but the fact that He even spoke to them at all in public was out of the ordinary.    It was not common to be seen in public speaking to women at all.  Yet Jesus did, and He was polite when He did it.


At the cross Jesus hung,  after being put on trial, beaten, mocked, stripped, flogged, and now nailed to the ‘tree’.   He was definitely exhausted, weak from blood loss and shock,  rejected by the people and abandoned by most of His disciples.  Mentally He was suffering, as well as physically, and emotionally.  Lastly, He was even momentarily forsaken by the Father.  He was at that time in the most intense pain of His life.  Yet, even then He took time to take care of His mother.

As the oldest son in that culture,  He technically was responsible for her care since her husband was dead.  He looked at His disciple, John, and His mother; then asked John to care for ‘His mother” and “His mother” to go with John from that moment on.  (NOTE– According to Matt.20:20-21 [this mother of James and John], Matt. 27:55-56, Mark 15:40-41, and John 19:25; the same woman seems to be Mary’s sister-Salome-who was James’ and John’s mother, and thus likely a  cousin of Jesus).

It always touched me that even amidst His pain and suffering, Jesus did not neglect the care and responsibility for His mother’s needs since He would no longer be there for her.  He did not hesitate to (1) speak to women in public, (2) alway  addressed them respectfully, and (3) He cared for the needs of His mother even at the lowest point of His life.  Jesus is even the prime role model  for this.   I am beyond astounded at His love, care and mercy in treating His mother the way He did.  Even while suffering, He kept giving, loving, caring.  What an amazing God!

“As a Daughter of the King, your purpose is not to turn heads, your purpose is to turn Hearts toward the King.”


About Transitioning to Retirement

“Therefore, be careful how you walk, not as unwise men, but as wise, making the most of your time, because the days are evil.”  Ephes. 5:15,16.

Hello there  C. O. S readers!

I have  been wondering a lot more lately about transitioning into retirement.  What is transitioning anyway?    As I looked it up I came across a definition like this:  “a movement, process, change from one stage, state, position, subject, etc; to another”.     When I try to do research I find there is a lot out there about transitioning into retirement.  I have read about as little as 3 stages up to 6 or 7.   Hubby has been talking about it and we know it is approaching.  Since I know definitely that it is coming soon,  what do I expect?  Will things flow smoothly?  Will I have to make major adjustments or major decisions and if so, can I start now or do I have to wait till it is imperative or legal to make certain decisions?


Life is managed a lot in  stages.   In my own  life,  I can personally think of many transitions I have made through the years. I am remembering , for example, from childhood to adulthood, from singleness to marriage, from childless to fruitfulness, from spring season to autumn season, from non-believing to believing.  We can find stages life, stages of death, stages of marriage or divorce, stages of grief or loss, stages of love, stages of pregnancy, stages of change, of sleep,  and stages of dementia or cancer.   Therefore, why not talk about stages of retirement?   It helps to break events up into stages that we can go through a little bit at a time.  It is easier to measure our progress and makes the events of life more manageable.   The stages of retirement can be found on quite a few different sites.

Not only can you find the different stages of retirement, but you can find websites that deal with  just financial preparation, others with psychological aspects, and still others discuss the emotional aspects.

I will mention the emotional stages here briefly.  I found these on this site   and is mentioned in at least one other blog I know of.

  • Pre-retirement-The Planning time
  • The Big Day-Smiles, handshakes, farewells
  • Honeymoon Phase- I’m Free!
  • Disenchantment-This is it?
  • Reorientation- Building a New Identity
  • Routine-Moving On


Right now, I am in the planning stage of transitioning to retirement,  so what does that mean?  Yeah, retirement is in the future.    Our health is fairly good and our house is paid for.  Perhaps adjusting the budget is the next thing to work on.   Then maybe down sizing and or moving from our nice sized home to a smaller one.  Also I  definitely think we will need part-time jobs for each of us focus on.  Besides that we should be able to focus on some hobbies, maybe go traveling?  I am one who dislikes changes and if I have to change, would rather do it gradually; easing into it.  Just thinking about all these changes almost overwhelms me,therefore the more time I have to prepare, the better it usually goes for me.

However, one article I read said this:  “As reality sets in, only 24% of boomers express confidence that they will have enough resources in retirement vs. 37% five years ago.”  Therefore, it is a concern.  My understanding is that the millennial generation now outnumbers the baby boomers, but some 60 million or so boomers is a good portion of the present population.  Conclusively, we need to get busy planning boomers!   It is fast approaching.

But to sum it all up,  transitioning to retirement will involve and affect everyone in a family in some way. Planning and preparing is  not something that should be taken lightly.  From financial changes, physical changes, changing living arrangements, social activities, emotional and spiritual changes…….. Be serious and thoughtful about how all this will play out and don’t just take it for granted in our changing economy that everything will work out.   “Also in terms of the difficulties that come with retirement whether it is health or financial, I think these are crucial conversations to be having with the next generation. It is really a family project when people retire, and financial or health problems are a natural part of almost every families’ lives and members should discuss how everybody collectively be clear-eyed and speak frankly about what a future is and how to best plan.”

One assurance I do hang on to in spite of all the changes that may come, our God remains the same. He is timeless and unchanging, and for Him one day is as a thousand years. Though all His works may come to end, “But Thou art the same, And Thy years will not come to an end.” Psalm 102: 27  I am so grateful I have an unchanging God to see me through this transition into retirement as well as all the other transitions in life.

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“Often when you think you’re at the end of something, you’re at the beginning of something else.”  Fred Rogers