Using Christian Caring Tools part 2

 

“And whoever in the name of a disciple gives to one of these little ones even a cup of cold water to drink, truly  I say to you he shall  not  lose his reward.”  Matthew 10:42

Are words the only caring tools we can use?

I knocked on the door and waited. I wondered if I was really doing any good using the tools I was using?  Seems like I had to wait longer certain times than others, but eventually the door was answered and I sat down in a comfy chair. Leaving more than an hour later, I pondered…What had I done for that time? Basically I listened and asked questions, at times sharing Scripture and at times praying. It didn’t seem like much , but the elderly lady I visited enjoyed it greatly.  It didn’t seem like much, but it meant a great deal to her as she wasn’t able to get around to socialize very much.

In addition to the first two already discussed;  the third tool  is  ‘Affirmation or Blessing.”  This tool reminds us who is in charge and working, assuring people that God is still with them; and gives comfort to people, encouragement, and helps to train our thoughts.   In addition to being positive, affirmations need to be based on truth to be effective.  Formal written prayers or affirming words, or just using verses written out are effective; read or memorized.  (Numbers 6:24-26,2 Corinthians 13:14, Philippians 4:7-examples)   It depends on the situation.  Even something like “God bless you and be with you.  May He shower you  with His hope, joy and peace.”   Consider the person’s needs and your preferences as well.  If you speak with assurance and conviction, it will come across in your words.  This is a very encouraging Christian  resource. Click this link for some more examples.


Furthermore,  besides our words, talking and sharing with someone, or praying with them,  gluing them altogether are the actual actions.    Even though it  is easy to say we care about someone,  deeds usually demonstrate the truthfulness of our words.  It just means doing simple things like taking a meal to someone,  giving them a ride, giving them a drink, taking them shopping, going out for coffee, etc.   All these type of ‘acts’ are an important tool for giving support or care; however, not only are they for seniors,  but any others going through difficulty as well.   Supporting with our words is helpful but  being  willingness to  give of our time, speaks louder than words.

“But prove yourselves doers of the word, and not merely hearers who delude themselves.” James 1:22

Finally to review, the four Christian caring tools we have discussed:   1) Prayer with the person,  2)Sharing scripture,  3)Affirmations of truth,  and 4)Acts of service.   We not only can give good care as a Christian, we can share the source of encouragement, healing, comfort, strength with the  person we care about;  using  these tools.  I hope they prove useful to you the next you visit someone in need and enrich your caring experience.

May our Lord bless and keep you in His service.

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“You are to pay special attention to those who by accidents of time, or place, or circumstances, are brought into closer connection with you.”  Saint Augustine

 

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Using Tools for Christian Care

 

“And the King will answer and say to them, ‘Truly I say to you, to the extent that you did it to one of these brothers of Mine, even the least of them, you did it to Me. ”  Matthew 25: 40

                                   Caring for Others in Need

Have you ever heard of ‘Tools for Christian Care’?   What does a person dealing with depression for several years, someone who lost their parent, an elderly widow going through health issues, and an older woman who has lost the use of her legs all have in common? These are the type of people that need the tools I am going to talk about.  They are for giving aid and encouragement to others.   We are commanded as Christians to love one another.  Therefore, when we have relationships with  those who are hurting, we have the opportunity to give the love and care that people need in situations such as

  • …life too much to handle alone right now?
  • … health, your attitude, or your relationships suffering?
  • …adjusting to a new job, a change in marital status, a serious illness, the death of a loved one, a recent move?
  • …. don’t have anyone in your life who really cares?

Everyone goes through difficult times. Having someone to listen, to share God’s love with you, can help you get through the stress, or loneliness you may be experiencing.   Just being able to share your burden with others lightens them for you.  Sometimes you need to go to a professional counselor or pastor or therapist, and that’s ok. Basically I am referring to assisting people who have normal coping skills intact, their thinking in order and their emotions controlled. For some reason, they just need a little extra support, encouragement, prayer with them and for them, and sharing of their burdens. https://www.stephenministries.org/stephenministry/default.cfm/917

Of course, it is important to take training if you wish to be involved in your church or organization doing this on a regular basis.  However, these tools are valuable to know for anyone who is in a  relationship with a hurting person.  It doesn’t matter if the problem is physical,  financial, marital, or related to loss of a loved one, etc.  These special tools are available to anyone to use as a Christian lay person, to support someone having a hard time making it through a crisis.  I would like to share a couple of them here and a couple in the next post.  Even though no professional training needed for these, but it is helpful to have knowledge of the person you are with and familiarity with the tools. To learn more- Christian Caregiving-a Way of Life.

First of all, one tool to use in caring for others is prayer.  Prayer is a talking to God. He wants us to approach him and share our concerns with him in prayer. He tells us to “Cast our cares on Him for He cares for us.” (1 Peter 5:7) God listens and He understands  and supplies any kind of need.  When you pray for others, it  benefits your relationship and the other’s at the same time.  It results in an intimate personal experience that stems from being honest and open with each other as well as God.  You both draw closer to God together.  Through prayer, you are taking your burdens to God and bonding with the other person in the process.  Remember, only pray when the other person is willing and ready to pray, never trying  to force it.

Secondly, a valuable tool to aid others is the Bible.  The Bible records how God ministered to people and deals with many different human concerns, experiences, and situations.   Since you probably’d like to take one with you, then use a small one so as not to intimidate when you visit.  It would be good to mark down some passages or know them by memory.  Maybe  you may also share a few thoughts or explain them, but it is not always necessary. Furthermore, never manipulate or bombard people with your judgments.  It is best to  let the Bible speak for itself and bring reassurance, understanding, correction, strength, etc.  The Scriptures are definitely an important aid to keeping up one’s spirit in a crisis.

These first two tools involve using your words and words from the Bible.  Hopefully, just from having mentioned the first two, they will give you some ideas and encouragement.

Consequently, don’t be guilty of thinking your words don’t matter.  “Words change our relationships, our demeanor, our entire system of beliefs, and even our businesses. Being a planet or not being a planet makes a major difference, just as the words “I love you” or “I hate you” have majorly different meanings behind them. Words have a powerful and undeniably overwhelming influence on us – for good and, at times, for bad. Think for a moment how words have changed your life.”

http://www.askingsmarterquestions.com/words-have-the-power-to-change-our-lives/

In addition…Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.”  Ephes. 4:29   They have influence.

I hope reading about these tools may benefit you and give you a couple ideas about sharing with the person you care for.  Thanks for reading and join me next time in sharing about a couple more tools to use in caring relationships.

 

 

By compassion we make others’ misery our own,  and so,  by relieving them, we relieve ourselves also.”     Sir  Thomas Browne

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